Love Bade Me Welcome: The Life of Phyllis Ott. By Phyllis Silverman Ott-Toltz and Barbara Bamberger Scott. Lake Forest, CA: Behler Publications. Memoir by the sister of Mailer's first wife, Beatrice Silverman. “Sliver,” as she was called, was the roommate of Mailer's sister at Radcliffe, and later had an affair with Mailer, which she discusses.