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Generally, givers are “generous,” bullying, dominating, somewhat overbearing, anxious, guilty, lively, {{ins|self-pitying, compassionate,}} and apparently open. Takers are secretive, private, {{ins|hold strong opinions,}} often sensitive—especially on what they receive—sly, greedy, subtle, envious, {{ins|superior in their own eyes,}} passive, and just as the giver feels anxiety when it is a question of receiving, so the taker has great anxiety about giving.  
Generally, givers are “generous,” bullying, dominating, somewhat overbearing, anxious, guilty, lively, {{ins|self-pitying, compassionate,}} and apparently open. Takers are secretive, private, {{ins|hold strong opinions,}} often sensitive—especially on what they receive—sly, greedy, subtle, envious, {{ins|superior in their own eyes,}} passive, and just as the giver feels anxiety when it is a question of receiving, so the taker has great anxiety about giving.  


All performing artists are almost pure givers. People with a relaxed tweedy wit are takers. Givers tend to be sloppy or loud in their dress (the sloppy dresser and the loud dresser are the same thing)—takers are invariably neat. Givers express the masculine creative-destroying principle, takers the feminine conserving-principle. The irony is that givers open other people to their souls but takers are essentially closer to their souls. (Dave Kessler is a giver, Anne Kessler is a taker.){{refn| David Kessler (1889-1960), a candy manufacturer, was married to Mailer’s father’s sister, Anne (1889-1958). The Kesslers were fond of Mailer and helped with his college expenses. ''[[Advertisements for Myself]]'' is dedicated to them.}} Susy{{LJ:Susan}} worries me because while she is both a giver and a taker both are generally suppressed, and people who suppress both are in for a rocky toad. Givers and takers always reveal themselves over things like picking up a check. Whenever I am threatened or have suffered some disaster I pick up every check in sight.
All performing artists are almost pure givers. People with a relaxed tweedy wit are takers. Givers tend to be sloppy or loud in their dress (the sloppy dresser and the loud dresser are the same thing)—takers are invariably neat. Givers express the masculine creative-destroying principle, takers the feminine conserving-principle. The irony is that givers open other people to their souls but takers are essentially closer to their souls. (Dave Kessler is a giver, Anne Kessler is a taker.){{LJ:Kessler}} Susy{{LJ:Susan}} worries me because while she is both a giver and a taker both are generally suppressed, and people who suppress both are in for a rocky toad. Givers and takers always reveal themselves over things like picking up a check. Whenever I am threatened or have suffered some disaster I pick up every check in sight.


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