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	(show of hands: who heard it there?) I think it offers what the rest of the		(show of hands: who heard it there?) I think it offers what the rest of the
	speech may have missed: My Father. We could say, this was one time I met		speech may have missed: My Father. We could say, this was one time I met
	him. It is called, ''Fellow Geniuses:''		him. It is called, ''Fellow Geniuses'':

	I am going to share with you a seminal work of non-fiction by my father:		I am going to share with you a seminal work of non-fiction by my father:
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	point in a moment of annoyance with her, and imagining the deepening		point in a moment of annoyance with her, and imagining the deepening
	bond with my father over our shared aversion to carpeted floors, I may have		bond with my father over our shared aversion to carpeted floors, I may have
	dumped some of the sand onto the wall to wall and formed a Carl ~~Andrelike~~		dumped some of the sand onto the wall to wall and formed a Carl Andre-like
	floor piece.		floor piece.

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	resonate with some hefty cosmic references. They also help me locate myself		resonate with some hefty cosmic references. They also help me locate myself
	within the family.		within the family.
			[[File:Mr13-mai-1.jpg\|thumb\|'''Figure 1''': Planetary Siblings]]
	Here is Dad and the children as the Sun and nine planets. John Buffalo,		Here is Dad and the children as the Sun and nine planets. John Buffalo,
	the youngest, saw the most of Dad, and Sue, the oldest, probably saw him		the youngest, saw the most of Dad, and Sue, the oldest, probably saw him
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	lucky accident, and also, that if this were so I would be taking on a lot of		lucky accident, and also, that if this were so I would be taking on a lot of
	responsibility! (See '''Figure 1''')		responsibility! (See '''Figure 1''')
			[[File:Mr13-mai-2.jpg\|thumb\|left\|'''Figure 2''': Earth Layers]]
	~~placeholder for~~ Figure ~~1 - Planetary Siblings~~

	I make up for it in the next one: Here we have Dad and the nine children		I make up for it in the next one: Here we have Dad and the nine children
	as the ten layers of the earth, from core to exosphere. (See '''Figure 2''')		as the ten layers of the earth, from core to exosphere. (See '''Figure 2''')
			[[File:Mr13-mai-3.jpg\|thumb\|'''Figure 3''': Creation Stage Yantra]]
	~~placeholder for~~ Figure ~~2 - Earth Layers~~

	The children as nine cosmic phases of CREATION, PRESERVATION,		The children as nine cosmic phases of CREATION, PRESERVATION,
	AND DISSOLUTION in Yantra, or sacred mandala construction. (See '''Figure 3''')		AND DISSOLUTION in Yantra, or sacred mandala construction. (See '''Figure 3''')
			[[File:Mr13-mai-4.jpg\|thumb\|left\|'''Figure 4''': Benzene Ring]]
	~~placeholder for~~ Figure ~~3 - Creation Stage Yantra~~		[[File:Mr13-mai-5.jpg\|thumb\|left\|'''Figure 5''': Dad & Siblings Benzene Ring]]

	Here is the family arrayed like a Benzene Ring; which has the chemical		Here is the family arrayed like a Benzene Ring; which has the chemical
	formula C6H6). If Dad had only had six children, we would have a perfect		formula C6H6). If Dad had only had six children, we would have a perfect
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	like Mailer and his women. This also bears quite a resemblance to the Merry		like Mailer and his women. This also bears quite a resemblance to the Merry
	Go Round described earlier. (See '''Figure 4''' and '''Figure 5''')		Go Round described earlier. (See '''Figure 4''' and '''Figure 5''')
			[[File:Mr13-mai-6.jpg\|thumb\|'''Figure 6''': Piano Keys]]
	~~placeholder for Figure 4~~ - ~~Benzene Ring~~		[[File:Mr13-mai-7.jpg\|thumb\|'''Figure 7''': Notebook Diagrams of Sibling Models]]

	~~placeholder for~~ Figure ~~5 - Dad & Siblings Benzene Ring~~

	Next we have Norman as Pianist: the wives are the black keys and the		Next we have Norman as Pianist: the wives are the black keys and the
	children, the white, and fit within an Octave until his marriage to Norris,		children, the white, and fit within an Octave until his marriage to Norris,
	which starts a new Octave. (See '''Figure 6''' and '''Figure 7''')		which starts a new Octave. (See '''Figure 6''' and '''Figure 7''')
			[[File:Mr13-mai-8.jpg\|thumb\|left\|'''Figure 8''': Cell Structure Siblings]]
	~~placeholder for~~ Figure ~~6 - Piano Keys~~		[[File:Mr13-mai-9.jpg\|thumb\|left\|'''Figure 9''': Mother as Cataclytic Converter]]

	Here we have the Family as a cell membrane and here (See '''Figure 8'''), Mother (my		Here we have the Family as a cell membrane and here (See '''Figure 8'''), Mother (my
	Mother), as catalytic converter (See '''Figure 9'''). She was extremely protective, and one could		Mother), as catalytic converter (See '''Figure 9'''). She was extremely protective, and one could
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	love, both for me, and for Norman, even after they split. So we have the		love, both for me, and for Norman, even after they split. So we have the
	father-centric model, the child-centric model, and the wife-centric model.		father-centric model, the child-centric model, and the wife-centric model.

	~~placeholder for Figure 7 - Notebook Diagrams of Sibling Models~~

	~~placeholder for Figure 8 - Cell Structure Siblings~~

	~~placeholder for Figure 9 - Mother as Cataclytic Converter~~

	As a painter, I have spent some time investigating this family structure,		As a painter, I have spent some time investigating this family structure,
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	of my eight siblings. I see now that I was trying to accommodate eight		of my eight siblings. I see now that I was trying to accommodate eight
	or nine possible viewpoints, and anything less felt wrong.		or nine possible viewpoints, and anything less felt wrong.
			[[File:Mr13-mai-10.jpg\|thumb\|'''Figure 10''': Scissors Language 2]]
	Here is a subsequent series of nine landscapes that I later understood as		Here is a subsequent series of nine landscapes that I later understood as
	portraits of the nine of us in our varied terrain and palettes. I like connecting		portraits of the nine of us in our varied terrain and palettes. I like connecting
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	become open fields and barren hillsides, and our family tree emerges as a		become open fields and barren hillsides, and our family tree emerges as a
	guiding spirit in my creative processes. (See '''Figure 10''' and '''Figure 11''')		guiding spirit in my creative processes. (See '''Figure 10''' and '''Figure 11''')
			[[File:Mr13-mai-11.jpg\|thumb\|left\|'''Figure 11''': The Dream Life of My Siblings]]
	~~placeholder for Figure 10~~ - ~~Scissors Language 2~~

	~~placeholder for~~ Figure 11 - The Dream Life of My Siblings

	I will close with the piece I read at Carnegie Hall at Dad’s memorial.		I will close with the piece I read at Carnegie Hall at Dad’s memorial.
	(show of hands: who heard it there?) I think it offers what the rest of the		(show of hands: who heard it there?) I think it offers what the rest of the

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	the way, is also all about me.		the way, is also all about me.

	~~'''PART~~ 1. ~~“THIRD PERSON FATHER”'''~~		===Part 1. “Third Person Father”===

	It has been said that in families of two or more children, each child experiences		It has been said that in families of two or more children, each child experiences
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	in the least, and spoiled. At a certain point, her presence became so insistent		in the least, and spoiled. At a certain point, her presence became so insistent
	that she began to invade my personality. I started throwing tantrums, refusing		that she began to invade my personality. I started throwing tantrums, refusing
	to take care of business, and so ~~on— and~~ this was just last week. Nothing		to take care of business, and so on—and this was just last week. Nothing
	could stand up to this girl. So I finally caved, and—Here I am—		could stand up to this girl. So I finally caved, and—Here I am—
	acknowledging her.		acknowledging her.
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	For a long time, I did not want to come to the Mailer conferences. The		For a long time, I did not want to come to the Mailer conferences. The
	ballast I was always seeking in our relationship could be further displaced by		ballast I was always seeking in our relationship could be further displaced by
	any version of Norman I might establish ~~hearing— or~~ especially speaking—		any version of Norman I might establish hearing—or especially speaking—
	about him. In the effort to connect with an audience who knew externally		about him. In the effort to connect with an audience who knew externally
	more about him than I did, I could lose track of my dad completely.		more about him than I did, I could lose track of my dad completely.
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	reflected in the crazy prism of our family.		reflected in the crazy prism of our family.

	~~'''PART~~ 2: ~~THE PRISM~~, OR, ~~THE DREAM LIFE OF MY SIBLINGS'''~~		===Part 2: The Prism, or, the Dream Life of My Siblings===

	I would like to show you some diagrams featuring the nine children, six		I would like to show you some diagrams featuring the nine children, six
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	husband can attest, that our house today does perhaps bear a resemblance		husband can attest, that our house today does perhaps bear a resemblance
	at times to events described here.		at times to events described here.
			[[File:Mr13-mai-12.jpg\|thumb\|'''Figure 12''': Young Maggie’s Note from Dad]]
	At fifteen, I was still too shy to speak easily with my father. Days might		At fifteen, I was still too shy to speak easily with my father. Days might
	pass without conversing, but we would always exchange meaningful looks.		pass without conversing, but we would always exchange meaningful looks.
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	a note from Dad, placed at the entrance, so as not to disturb me. “He must		a note from Dad, placed at the entrance, so as not to disturb me. “He must
	be really impressed to put it in writing” I thought, and eagerly read his assessment		be really impressed to put it in writing” I thought, and eagerly read his assessment
	of my work. (See Figure 12)		of my work. (See '''Figure 12''')

	When I read this note at the Carnegie Hall tribute, I wasn’t sure about		When I read this note at the Carnegie Hall tribute, I wasn’t sure about
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	Dad had a great generosity whereby, if he felt that you were serious or excited		Dad had a great generosity whereby, if he felt that you were serious or excited
	about something, he would forget his anger, and give you his full ~~at-~~		about something, he would forget his anger, and give you his full attention. He found me a little later and said, “Listen, I didn’t realize you were up to something in there. I took another look, and I’m pleased. I think you

	~~placeholder for Figure 12 - Young Maggie's Note from Dad~~

	~~tention~~. He found me a little later and said, “Listen, I didn’t realize you were
	up to something in there. I took another look, and I’m pleased. I think you
	may be an artist. Finish the sculpture, I’d like to live with it a while. Maybe		may be an artist. Finish the sculpture, I’d like to live with it a while. Maybe
	we’ll put it in the Living Room.”		we’ll put it in the Living Room.”
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	I miss you.		I miss you.

	~~===Work Cited===~~
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	*{{cite journal \|last=Mailer \|first=Maggie \|title=Prism Break \|journal=The Mailer Review
	~~\|volume=13 \|issue=No. 1\|date=2019 \|pages=65-84 \|access-date=2021 \|ref=harv }}~~
	~~{{Refend}}~~


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''This Keynote Address was delivered to the annual meeting of the Norman Mailer Society on Saturday, October 19, 2019 at Wilkes University''

HELLO, MAILER SCHOLARS!

In good Mailer fashion, I will admit that I have in the past harbored a
certain, mild antipathy towards most of you. I thought I would fess up right
away about my discomfort and my animosity, and hope that my Mailerean
honesty might help to forge a kind of friendship between us.

Thank you for inviting me to be here and part of me feels amazed that
you trust me enough to be the Keynote Speaker. I wasn’t clear on the exact
meaning of Keynote, so I looked it up on Google, a habit Norman would
definitely abhor. Having read Merriam Webster’s list of synonyms, I do not
feel that I qualify as any of the following: bottom line, bull’s-eye, centerpiece,
core, crux, essence, gist, heart, kernel, meat, meat and potatoes, net, nub,
nubbin, pith, pivot, point, root, sum. I was surprised by “meat and potatoes,”
although of all those items, it resonates first, perhaps because Dad loved potroast
and once tried to teach me how to make it. But I’m not going to tell that
story. I’m keeping most of the “Norman As Family Man” stories to myself,
for reasons which will unfold. And the talk may—or may not—feel like meat
and potatoes, may or may not feel like the gist, heart, or essence. But I will
do my best, and can probably manage a nub, nubbin, or pith.

This talk is dedicated to my Siblings. Here is a brief outline, two warnings,
and a confession.

I will deliver the talk in two parts. The first part was difficult to write,
personally revealing, and possibly solipsistic. The second part is all about
me, so I can promise you a modicum of fun. I considered asking you to vote
on which one to present. But working on this project has extracted the egomaniac in me, so I made the decision to give you both talks. Hopefully your attention won’t be commandeered by the promise of fun in part 2, which, by
the way, is also all about me.

'''PART 1. “THIRD PERSON FATHER”'''

It has been said that in families of two or more children, each child experiences
a different version of the same parent. If that is true, in our case, there
were at least nine Normans, in addition to all the experimental versions, and
accents that he tested in public.

I am going to talk today about the different ways in which I have met my
father, and the different stations in my own life, where these meetings took
place: child, teenager, adult. I have met my father in dreams, and of course,
in his writing. I have met Norman Mailer, the character, trying out for the
role of Dad. I met Dad in the days before death, in the hospital, when he lost
the ability to speak or properly hold a pen, but could still flirt heavily with
the nursing staff, and communicate to us through a look. And I met him
just after death, when his presence seemed to permeate everything. I had the
sense that he had finally gained access to the whole cosmos. It couldn’t be an
accident that on the morning after he died I saw his last book in the window
of a nearby bookstore, just released to the public: ''Norman Mailer, On God''.
His fame had always seemed to confer a kind of immortality, but this was the
real thing. The simultaneity of his presence, in those three days after his
death, was palpable. It felt like The Universe’s Bookshelf now contained only
Norman Mailer books—only all the pages had traded places. He was everywhere
in an instant, there was no story, no continuity, only essence.

I also met my father long after his death: some two years ago, in the Jungle
in Peru, while drinking the supernatural concoction Ayahuasca, and
crossing the border between this world and the afterlife. I had heard that
imbibing this purgative tea, known as the “Vine of the Dead,” was a route to
the other side, and I might meet my father there. I was looking for my father,
but I met Norman Mailer. He showed up reluctantly, after several days, six
cups of the tea, and a brief interlude with Norris, who showed up ahead of
him, so that we could hash out a few things. When Dad appeared, he did
not appear: I heard his voice, saying, “Listen Darlin, I know you’ve come a
long way to talk, and you’ll hear my voice, but you won’t be able to see me.
I’m working on a film, and it’s difficult to get away. But we can talk.” I said,
“I came all the way to Peru to track you down in the afterlife, and you better
fucking show up.” Some smoke descended, and there he was: But not my
Dad. It was Mailer in 1969, with his turbulent curls, the man a couple of
years before my birth in ’71. I was looking for Dad, and I got Norman Mailer,
running for Mayor: looking, oddly enough, exactly like the image of him
printed on the front of this year’s Mailer conference program.

He said to me: “you had a choice: you could have been one of my women,
or come in as my daughter.” I said, “why would I want to be one of your
women? It was your Genius I was interested in. I was hoping to inherit some
of that.” He then gave me a talk about Work, with a capital W, the Work that
you meet when taking on a creative life. He said: “Listen, Darlin. You’ve been
approaching Work as if I’m the gate you need to pass through first, on the way
to Work. That’s your problem. Work is its own gate, you need to find your
own way through. You can’t get to Work through me. I am not the Way.”

I do not know if that was a real conversation with his soul, or an animated
character scripted by my subconscious. But I am not sure there’s a difference.
The Novel as History, and History as a Novel, is something I have lived.
I was quite resistant to giving this talk today and my main hesitation is
that it occupies the spooky—yes, spooky—territory of rewriting history.
There is a phenomenon that I have repeatedly encountered when reading
most biographies, essays, or articles about my father, in which I begin to believe
I am wrong about the man I knew. My version of him is tenuous, easily
displaced. History may have known him better. It has been hard for me
to hold both versions at the same time.

While putting this talk together I was repeatedly interrupted, and sometimes
held hostage, by a six-year-old girl who kept showing up and demanding
certain things. She said that she would not allow me to write the
talk until I acknowledged her. She specifically wanted me to tell the story of
my Dad’s leaving, at Christmas time, in 1975. I thought that she was a pain
in the ass, and kept telling her to leave me alone. I did not think that the
Mailer Conference would have much interest in this particular six-year-old.
What did she know about Norman Mailer? She was tedious, not intellectual
in the least, and spoiled. At a certain point, her presence became so insistent
that she began to invade my personality. I started throwing tantrums, refusing
to take care of business, and so on— and this was just last week. Nothing
could stand up to this girl. So I finally caved, and—Here I am—
acknowledging her.

I could say that at age six, I met up with my father’s absence. I have a cinematic
memory of the moment and it is a bit melodramatic.

I remember one night, looking out the window facing the driveway of our
enormous house at the top of Yale Hill in Stockbridge, Massachusetts. I was
talking to the darkness on the other side of the glass, the black darkness that
you get in the Berkshires, in winter, and I was saying, “I miss him.” My mother
Carol and I were still living in the house, which she describes to this day, in
mantra-like fashion, as “the house with 28 rooms.” Dad had left earlier that
week. The house with 28 rooms had never seemed too large to me, and there
had always been a stream of guests that included friends, writers, musicians,
actors, siblings. When he left and took everyone with him, the house felt cavernous.
That night, when I spoke out loud the words, “I miss him,” I did not
understand what I was saying. The words were someone else’s words, and I
had probably heard my mother saying them as well. The sensation of newness
in that sentence offered a confusing, and sharply held experience. Somehow
I viscerally decided that to know my father was to miss him. And, more
to the point, that to Miss him was to Know him. I was staking my claim upon
him, even if all I could get my hands on was his absence. Missing him was an
action that I could take, it was a verb: “I miss him,” but a verb that also revealed
a vacuum and vulnerability that did not go with my six-year-old’s idea
of action. I did not know what a stative verb was. How confusing. To know
you is to miss you, and to miss you is to know you. I had not been exposed
to country music much—my mother Carol was a Jazz vocalist—but I seemed
to know that I could milk this feeling like a line from a country song. And,
small irony, Dad was leaving my mother for Norris, who was from Arkansas
and loved country music. Maybe he had been playing country music for us
all prior to his departure. I do know that he had been passing around photos
of Norris to show the kids their new Stepmother, and according to my mother
he was excited, like a little kid. But back to this other little kid. She was beginning
to understand that any bond with her father would now be bracketed—
would have to compete—with a distant network that included other
people, strangers, the whole world it seemed, but did not necessarily include
his children. He once said to me, “I am a writer first, and your father second,
and I don’t have a choice about this.”

In his early years of fame, my father told me that he regarded the character
Norman Mailer as the outer shell of a Sarcophagus, which he occupied during
the day and at night he would venture out and scribble notes and revisions on
the outside. And even though I read this description in one of his books years
after its telling, hearing it directly from him gave me a great deal of emotional
ballast. He was telling me because he could relate to my shyness, which was the
sarcophagus that I lived inside, and the telling felt full of love and attention.
Later on, when I found that he had already written the idea and released it to
the world, I could have felt duped, but I did not. The intensity of his attention
was worth as much as what he said. But the place where I often did feel duped
was in reading about him. Most anything written about my father had the effect
of reducing him to the man described on the Sarcophagus, and left me
with the sense that the other guy did not exist. In the same way that he constantly
rewrote and adjusted his public image, texts about him seemed to
rewrite my memory, and my sense of him would change with each reading.

For a long time, I did not want to come to the Mailer conferences. The
ballast I was always seeking in our relationship could be further displaced by
any version of Norman I might establish hearing— or especially speaking—
about him. In the effort to connect with an audience who knew externally
more about him than I did, I could lose track of my dad completely.

But now I am in it: I have agreed to take on the role of the one telling, adjusting,
and revising the image. And perhaps I can say nothing. While
preparing this talk, I had the fantasy of standing here on stage without uttering
a single word, as if you, the audience, would be able to read me. After
all, I am his flesh and blood. A living text. I could stand here as the Speechless
Aftermath, to quote a friend, and accept your readerly attention so that,
given the collective knowledge about Norman Mailer in this room, we might
construct together a new idea of him without my ever speaking. This is the
part of me that feels like the truth, and throughout this talk there is present
a version of this self.

If I am not honest, this podium becomes an impossible insertion point,
like an Escher drawing, where I transform in real time into a character in
Dad’s continuing novel, a character who will surprise the writer in the act of
writing, who has things to say the writer cannot know until it is written. If
my writing is off, I will not believe in the character, or in this moment of
self invention. This impossible insertion point is half-first person, half-third
person. Anything else would be a lie. Perhaps that is how Norman understood
himself as a father—that his children were partly his creations, but
that he had limited say in the matter. I once got angry at him for remarking
that when you have kids, you have no idea who you’re going to get—as if we
were volumes from the Book-of-the-Month-Club. I wanted him to write
that text himself. And I wanted it to be the Great American Novel. I still believed
he could transmit his brilliance to me, with his attention, as he was
able to do on the page.

Like most of my siblings, I did not see a lot of my dad growing up, so I
tended to feel that the way I knew him was always warring with the third person
version he wrote about. If Mailer’s third person self was to become an habitual
feature in his writing—Mailer’s Mailer—it was also an habitual feature
in his parenting. My father, when at home, was often still playing the character
Norman Mailer with us. It seemed that he maintained an eye on himself
as NM while attempting to inhabit the other character, called Dad. Perhaps the
sarcophagus was a permanent fixture. It allowed him to speak to us, his children,
with a forthrightness that was good for Norman the writer, but perhaps
not so good for the kids. I thought that he regarded us with a cooler eye than
most parents, and was comfortable dispensing comments about our appearance
and aptitudes that could easily be taken for insults, but given as they were
with a writerly eye, could also be tossed off as attempts at sentences that did
not quite work. He might announce to me and my sisters, something like:
“Maggie always had a purchase on Beauty, but now she really owns it.” Such
insults/compliments were a matter of course for him. He did not believe in
compliments. He wanted us to be on our toes and he was always looking for
a sparring partner. I was probably the world’s worst sparring partner. I would
meet his glancing barbs, his attempts to wake me out of a dreamy inwardness,
with greater shyness. I was almost mute around him. I loved my father fiercely,
perhaps in the way that only a daughter can love her father, but around him I
was so terrified of getting hurt that I could not think.

He once told me that most of what he said to me should not be taken seriously.
I heard this around college-age and I felt shocked at the revelation that
every word he uttered TO ME, was not meant for consumption, unlike his
writing. I was confused, as was he, between the writer and the Father. It is a
confusion that I have continually grappled with in a kind of reflexive inner
merry-go-round, wherein I seek the private father and hope to find him in
the public one. I want the first-person, and I want to chase the third-person.

I see myself planted upon a carousel creature, spinning round a central axis
with vertical mirrored sections that catch your reflection as you pass by. The
outer rings of the carousel are also adorned with small mirrors, as well as the
ceiling, each placed at a different angle and offering multiple views of one’s
position astride an absurdly painted animal. The central axis may or may not be
my father, and the outer spokes my siblings, but the mirrored fragments feel
like a third person version of me, the only one possible in a family of nine children
and six stepmothers. At times it was difficult if not impossible to hold
onto a sense of self amidst the family, but I became an expert at surveying the
arena and observing my role in it, even if the only reflective surfaces appeared
willy nilly, at oddly punctuating moments, in my field of vision.

From our teenage years until adulthood, Dad used to take each of his kids
out individually for dinner, with the idea that because he knew we were not
getting enough of him during the year, he would at least try to deliver an intense
injection of one-on-one time with him. During these dinners, he
would often lay down incisive commentary on my being, and I would listen
like a sponge to everything that he had to say, and then spend the next several
months trying to digest it. “Oh, I’m like this. Maggie calls a spade a
spade. Maggie’s silence projects her intelligence. Maggie has the ambition of
a Napoleon, but the worldliness of a house-wife.” These dinners, which happened
one or two times a year, were like those oddly placed carousel mirrors,
flashing back a quick reflection. In his absence I would outgrow the image
that he had offered, but try to hold on to it anyway, because it was delineated
with such power—and it was all that I had of him. Or, let me switch
metaphors: our dinners felt like short stories, in which the character Maggie
came into being for a brief time. For me there was a quasi-religious quality
to them, as if I were being invented anew. In Dad’s absence his ideas about
me became relics and, to keep them alive, I traded my developing idea of
myself for his, thereby casting myself into the third person. I thought on
some level I could meet him, if not in daily life, then on the page, his page,
in some nether region where we were both enigmas. I wanted this maneuver
to be liberating for me, as I knew that it was for Mailer the writer. Handing
over my first-personhood was, of course, a form of captivity. It was not
a creative act. If I really wanted to meet him, I would have to join in the creative
process, or else live in a kind of perpetual denial, a prison without walls.
“You can’t cheat life,” he would say.

So I am meeting him right now, at the Norman Mailer Conference.
Maybe now he is equally present—and absent—for all of us. Maybe we all
Miss him, and try to Know him, or bring him to life, with our missing. He
would find this notion sentimental. But we need him. We need to know what
he would say about Trump. He might write an imaginary conversation, in
which the character Mailer says to the character DT, “Pal, we have this in
common: I could spit in the mythological eye of the Media, and they would
still love me.” DT would respond, “That’s terrific, you understand me. I could
stand in the middle of 5th avenue and shoot someone and I wouldn’t lose
any voters.” Perhaps right now Mailer’s words and energy would restore
some balance in the great match between God and The Devil. Perhaps he
could rev up the artist in the collective us.

I think that something about being an artist is to admit that liberation is
found within the prison. For me, liberation has come in part from trying to
answer the question: What did he mean when he said he was a writer first,
and a parent second? For much of my life I have entertained obvious, boring
answers: He knew he was not able to give us the right kind of attention.
Children were not his priority. He did once say he was not really interested
in his kids until he could have a decent conversation with them. But his form
of apology was to tell the truth. And one of the most helpful and corrective
comments he ever passed on was the notion that ''Feeling Sorry for Oneself is
a Great Sin''. So entertaining those answers has never been interesting enough,
on top of being Sinful!

I have come to understand, or perhaps decide, on another meaning:
Namely, a writer first, and a parent second, means that the writer begat the
father. If he were a writer first, that idea of himself permeated every part of
his existence. In some ways, I did not have a Father. I had a Writer. I was
raised by the same mind that investigates the nature of existence, raised by
a magician. No pun intended—just a different set of rules. The sense of possibility,
the magical possibilities this engenders, partly sustain the loss of
missing the other man. There is a transmission of freedom in the understanding.
As the daughter of a writer first, my sense of self, when I meet it—
becomes fluid, a creative action. If growing up, I had clung to that carousel
horse and waited for the flash of deliverance offered by his attention, as an
artist I learn everyday how to enliven that plastic horse, take it where I want
to go. If I felt that I lived as a character who shared ranks with his other protagonists,
I am now part author. The question of authorship now becomes
a philosophical stance, a living, existential question: who is doing the writing?
Who is creating the life? While this may be the underlying question for
all of us, not everyone is encouraged to attempt an answer. In telling me that
he was a writer first, and a father second- in admitting a truth exquisitely
painful for a child to hear, he was also handing me the mantle of the artist’s
life. Did this mean I would become an artist first and a mother second? No.
But the idea of being an artist was built in. And as an artist, I would need to
use all those reflections and versions of myself-first, second, third person,
reflected in the crazy prism of our family.

'''PART 2: THE PRISM, OR, THE DREAM LIFE OF MY SIBLINGS'''

I would like to show you some diagrams featuring the nine children, six
wives, and Norman in various formations and relationships that seem to
resonate with some hefty cosmic references. They also help me locate myself
within the family.

Here is Dad and the children as the Sun and nine planets. John Buffalo,
the youngest, saw the most of Dad, and Sue, the oldest, probably saw him
the least, so it made sense to go in this order. My nine-year-old son,
Nicholas, pointed out that I made myself the Earth, and questioned my
integrity in making such a self-serving map, but I assured him it was a
lucky accident, and also, that if this were so I would be taking on a lot of
responsibility!

placeholder for Figure 1 - Planetary Siblings

I make up for it in the next one: Here we have Dad and the nine children
as the ten layers of the earth, from core to exosphere.

placeholder for Figure 2 - Earth Layers

The children as nine cosmic phases of CREATION, PRESERVATION,
AND DISSOLUTION in Yantra, or sacred mandala construction.

placeholder for Figure 3 - Creation Stage Yantra

Here is the family arrayed like a Benzene Ring; which has the chemical
formula C6H6. If Dad had only had six children, we would have a perfect
match. Thankfully, it is not a perfect match. Benzene is notable for its sweet
smell. It is also terribly toxic. Benzene is used to make plastics, that most totalitarian
of materials! How would Dad feel to know that he almost constructed
such a metaphorical compound around himself? A Benzene ring is
formed of six carbons, which are usually bonded four ways. The one unbonded
electron from each carbon forms something called a conjugated
ring, meaning the electrons have free movement among all six carbons. A bit
like Mailer and his women. This also bears quite a resemblance to the Merry
Go Round described earlier.

placeholder for Figure 4 - Benzene Ring

placeholder for Figure 5 - Dad & Siblings Benzene Ring

Next we have Norman as Pianist: the wives are the black keys and the
children, the white, and fit within an Octave until his marriage to Norris,
which starts a new Octave.

placeholder for Figure 6 - Piano Keys

Here we have the Family as a cell membrane and here, Mother (my
Mother), as catalytic converter. She was extremely protective, and one could
say she reduced any toxic emissions coming my way with the force of her
love, both for me, and for Norman, even after they split. So we have the
father-centric model, the child-centric model, and the wife-centric model.

placeholder for Figure 7 - Notebook Diagrams of Sibling Models

placeholder for Figure 8 - Cell Structure Siblings

placeholder for Figure 9 - Mother as Cataclytic Converter

As a painter, I have spent some time investigating this family structure,
and mining it for clues about my creative habits. But, for a long time, I unwittingly
carried these structures, and projected them onto my paintings.

The numbers eight and nine come up a lot in my work. Without knowing
why, I once spent a year researching eight random topics to fuel a body of
work, in the hopes that my subconscious might forge some interesting paintings
from the overload. My references were far ranging: comic books, rebuses,
yantras, the genres of floating world and cliffhangers, and the palettes of Gauguin,
Goya, and Hiroshige. The title of the show was Floating World and, at
the time, the structure of the project made perfect sense to me, without once
consciously attaching it to my family. I just assumed that the conceptual overload
would induce the sensation of floating in the viewer. I was trying to locate
myself as a painter, and I thought that the number eight resonated with
the eight cardinal directions. It never occurred to me that I was making portraits
of my eight siblings. I see now that I was trying to accommodate eight
or nine possible viewpoints, and anything less felt wrong.

Here is a subsequent series of nine landscapes that I later understood as
portraits of the nine of us in our varied terrain and palettes. I like connecting
things that are not sure that they want to be connected: Arranged marriages
of colors, materials, and ideas. The conversations are wide ranging
and at times chaotic: palettes argue with one another; ideas overlap and interlope.
The revolving personalities in my family template have become standard
bearers for all my decisions about color, composition, and number. In
this way, landscapes become psychological terrain, siblings and stepmothers
become open fields and barren hillsides, and our family tree emerges as a
guiding spirit in my creative processes.

placeholder for Figure 10 - Scissors Language 2

placeholder for Figure 11 - The Dream Life of My Siblings

I will close with the piece I read at Carnegie Hall at Dad’s memorial.
(show of hands: who heard it there?) I think it offers what the rest of the
speech may have missed: My Father. We could say, this was one time I met
him. It is called, ''Fellow Geniuses:''

I am going to share with you a seminal work of non-fiction by my father:
until now a hidden literary gem, and one that helped me get started as an
artist. I was fifteen and was spending the summer in Provincetown with Dad,
Norris, and my eight siblings. Privacy was scarce but, somehow, a two-week
stretch emerged in which I had my own room.

As an only child living with my mother the rest of the year, I was well
equipped psychologically to spread out. I decided that I would tackle a sculpture
that I had been thinking about for some time. As any serious contemplative
will do, I began by collecting large pieces of driftwood. Buckets of
sand and seaweed piled up on the floor, which also happened to be covered
in wall to wall carpeting that my stepmother had chosen. I think, at one
point in a moment of annoyance with her, and imagining the deepening
bond with my father over our shared aversion to carpeted floors, I may have
dumped some of the sand onto the wall to wall and formed a Carl Andrelike
floor piece.

From the Army Navy store in town I collected buckets full of brass buttons,
and rusted machine gun bullets, which I thought were strangely beautiful,
and they looked to me like beads for a necklace. I think, subconsciously,
I was recreating scenes from ''The Naked and the Dead'', even though I had not
read it.

Meanwhile, deep in artistic fervor, clothes and wet bathing suits and towels
were landing in various locations around the room. I will say, and my
husband can attest, that our house today does perhaps bear a resemblance
at times to events described here.

At fifteen, I was still too shy to speak easily with my father. Days might
pass without conversing, but we would always exchange meaningful looks.
We were both absorbed in our work and I felt that we shared the unspoken
understanding of artists. I was sure, too, that he recognized in me a fellow genius.
So I was not surprised on the day when, returning to my room, I found
a note from Dad, placed at the entrance, so as not to disturb me. “He must
be really impressed to put it in writing” I thought, and eagerly read his assessment
of my work. (See Figure 12)

When I read this note at the Carnegie Hall tribute, I wasn’t sure about
saying “Asshole” out loud, and perhaps I did not want to make him look bad
during his Memorial, so I substituted the word, “Twit.” But here it is in its
original wording.

My father was always superstitious about giving anyone compliments.
And I knew this—but after reading his note I was devastated. Only partially
devastated, though. After all, Norman did teach the art of parsing emotional
states into percentages. Perhaps I was 80% devastated. The other 20% was
hopeful. The other 20% realized, with something like happiness, that my
habits mattered to my father. And on some level, he had stopped being Norman
Mailer and become, simply, my father. I cleaned up my room.

Dad had a great generosity whereby, if he felt that you were serious or excited
about something, he would forget his anger, and give you his full at-

placeholder for Figure 12 - Young Maggie's Note from Dad

tention. He found me a little later and said, “Listen, I didn’t realize you were
up to something in there. I took another look, and I’m pleased. I think you
may be an artist. Finish the sculpture, I’d like to live with it a while. Maybe
we’ll put it in the Living Room.”

To which I now say: Thanks, Dad.

I miss you.

===Work Cited===
{{Refbegin}}
*{{cite journal |last=Mailer |first=Maggie |title=Prism Break |journal=The Mailer Review
|volume=13 |issue=No. 1|date=2019 |pages=65-84 |access-date=2021 |ref=harv }}
{{Refend}}

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	integrity in making such a self-serving map, but I assured him it was a		integrity in making such a self-serving map, but I assured him it was a
	lucky accident, and also, that if this were so I would be taking on a lot of		lucky accident, and also, that if this were so I would be taking on a lot of
	responsibility!		responsibility! (See '''Figure 1''')

	placeholder for Figure 1 - Planetary Siblings		placeholder for Figure 1 - Planetary Siblings

	I make up for it in the next one: Here we have Dad and the nine children		I make up for it in the next one: Here we have Dad and the nine children
	as the ten layers of the earth, from core to exosphere.		as the ten layers of the earth, from core to exosphere. (See '''Figure 2''')

	placeholder for Figure 2 - Earth Layers		placeholder for Figure 2 - Earth Layers

	The children as nine cosmic phases of CREATION, PRESERVATION,		The children as nine cosmic phases of CREATION, PRESERVATION,
	AND DISSOLUTION in Yantra, or sacred mandala construction.		AND DISSOLUTION in Yantra, or sacred mandala construction. (See '''Figure 3''')

	placeholder for Figure 3 - Creation Stage Yantra		placeholder for Figure 3 - Creation Stage Yantra

	Here is the family arrayed like a Benzene Ring; which has the chemical		Here is the family arrayed like a Benzene Ring; which has the chemical
	formula C6H6. If Dad had only had six children, we would have a perfect		formula C6H6). If Dad had only had six children, we would have a perfect
	match. Thankfully, it is not a perfect match. Benzene is notable for its sweet		match. Thankfully, it is not a perfect match. Benzene is notable for its sweet
	smell. It is also terribly toxic. Benzene is used to make plastics, that most totalitarian		smell. It is also terribly toxic. Benzene is used to make plastics, that most totalitarian
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	ring, meaning the electrons have free movement among all six carbons. A bit		ring, meaning the electrons have free movement among all six carbons. A bit
	like Mailer and his women. This also bears quite a resemblance to the Merry		like Mailer and his women. This also bears quite a resemblance to the Merry
	Go Round described earlier.		Go Round described earlier. (See '''Figure 4''' and '''Figure 5''')

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	Next we have Norman as Pianist: the wives are the black keys and the		Next we have Norman as Pianist: the wives are the black keys and the
	children, the white, and fit within an Octave until his marriage to Norris,		children, the white, and fit within an Octave until his marriage to Norris,
	which starts a new Octave.		which starts a new Octave. (See '''Figure 6''' and '''Figure 7''')

	placeholder for Figure 6 - Piano Keys		placeholder for Figure 6 - Piano Keys

	Here we have the Family as a cell membrane and here, Mother (my		Here we have the Family as a cell membrane and here (See '''Figure 8'''), Mother (my
	Mother), as catalytic converter. She was extremely protective, and one could		Mother), as catalytic converter (See '''Figure 9'''). She was extremely protective, and one could
	say she reduced any toxic emissions coming my way with the force of her		say she reduced any toxic emissions coming my way with the force of her
	love, both for me, and for Norman, even after they split. So we have the		love, both for me, and for Norman, even after they split. So we have the
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	this way, landscapes become psychological terrain, siblings and stepmothers		this way, landscapes become psychological terrain, siblings and stepmothers
	become open fields and barren hillsides, and our family tree emerges as a		become open fields and barren hillsides, and our family tree emerges as a
	guiding spirit in my creative processes.		guiding spirit in my creative processes. (See '''Figure 10''' and '''Figure 11''')

	placeholder for Figure 10 - Scissors Language 2		placeholder for Figure 10 - Scissors Language 2